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Darn! I can't mention that I have my own dating sites and a podcast (With a website) coming up. Oh well.
I guess that I can say one thing. I was just on another dating website and still scratching my head about one thing. I don't understand why men in their 50s are responding to me, even though I mean that I am looking for men between the ages of 25 to 45. I even tried to write that using all capital letters. But it looks like that men on that particular website just look at the photo and disregard what I am looking for in a soulmate. Or they think that it is a guideline instead of a requirement. Or they think that they qualify because they think that they have four out of five things that I am looking for.
Age is one of the requirements that I need in a mate. Well, let me put this in point form of the requirements that I want in a soulmate:
- They have to be over 5'10" tall. I am 5'8". That is my reason why.
- They have to be between the ages of 25 to 45 years of age.
- They want children. Even if they already have kids, they want more.
- They have to love cats, and they do not have any dogs (I have a personal story, that happened to me and my cat last year,?for this picky requirement).
In regards to personal interests, you do have to have some of them in common with me. Other than that, I am flexible.
Besides, I have dated someone who had lied about his age years ago.
I do not give out names here, but he was a son of a millionaire. I remember when we first met, which was probably in 2002, he told me on the phone (It was a party line), that he was in his mid-thirties, and that he wanted to get married and have kids.
He also wanted to buy everything, but I told him only on special occasions like birthdays and Christmases. Which he did, and they were not that expensive anyway. The only gift that I remember now is the candle holder that he bought with his Airmile points.
And I should also mention that our date mostly consisted of me going to his place because he just wants to have?sex (Which is not true. I want more than sex in a relationship).
Anyway, it was also an on-again, off-again relationship. The first time, he mentioned that he didn't want to get married. The second time he mentioned that he didn't want to have kids, which was already two years into the relationship. And when he wanted to get back with after the last on, I was doubting why he wanted to get back with me. I do remember asking him one time some important questions (Which I can't remember now) that confirmed that he just wanted to have sex with me and nothing else. So, he called me a week before his birthday and confirmed that he was really 16 years older than what he said he was.
The next thing that I did, well I've heard that I shouldn't of done it, was to break up with him via email. Then I got a nasty phone call from him on Halloween. But I thought that I made the right choice in breaking up with him. I should of known from the start. But I know from experience that people look younger than their age. I do.
Or rather, I should have known that he was older because he was more into Prog Rock music of the 1970s. Bands and acts of the 1970s that I don't know of. I mean the only music genres that I am into when it comes to the 1970s are New Wave, Punk, Glam, and Disco. I'm more of a child of the 80s.
So my point is the reason why I am agist when it comes to dating is because I relate to men my own age better than someone in their 50s who already has kids and don't want any more. The kid thing is something that I don't really want to get into right now.
Boy, I still wish that I can promote some things here. I would also like to get some feedback as to how to advertise and promote my websites.
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I had two situations that have just came up. One is constantly ongoing and the other one, I think that I know what to do with.
The one that is ongoing is my relationship with my own mother. I still live with my parents. Well, my mother is still fixated on a Fall/Winter Jacket that I bought and wear. She doesn't like it from the time that I bought it. She thought that it was a Summer type of Jacket. I tried to tell her that it isn't. But she is still not convinced.
Now, I should mention that I usually put my cell phone in the right pocket of that jacket. Now that is showing (And it's not the first time) that the seems of that pocket is coming off. My mother thinkings, because of that, that other people will think that I am poor. I don't care what other people think of me. She doesn't understand that at all.
I don't think that my own mother will ever understand that what other people think is their own business. I mean that most of the time other think about their own lives and not what someone wears. That's real life.
I can tell you where this all comes from in my mother. My mother is from a poor village in Hungary. She is the youngest of 8 or 9 kids in her family. But during her time, (And still is to a certain extent) the thought of the day is that if you look poor, everyone will look down on you.
That is not much the case anymore. I mean, I know that I have a hole in my jacket. But I am willing to wear that until Spring arrives (Which hasn't yet). I am one of a woman that dresses more for comfort for fashion. But that doesn't mean that I am not fashionable. I am! I am like this with shoes too. I wear them until they wear out. I am still wearing my boots, even though were I live did have some warm days during the winter.
My mother still thinks that clothes makes the person. It doesn't. Personality does. That's what I want my future soulmate to see. Not just the looks. Looks will only get you far as the bedroom. That does not mean that I shouldn't look good when I am on a date. I think that looks come second to personality. What do you all think?
Anyway, my second thing that just came up thirty minutes ago was a call from an ex-boyfriend who wants to get back together with me. He's the one in an earlier blog I mentioned that he lied about his age, wants to get married, and wants children. I know that he also doesn't like Pagans (He mentioned that and now I am one), and I don't know if he likes cats. But I don't want to get back with him. Yes, I do have grudges too and I went on with my life. I'm starting to date again. I haven't? mention that yet, because it is still brand new. Plus, the man is ten years older than me with a son (And he doesn't mind having more kids). Anyways, what do you all think about this situation?
I am not going answer my cell phone for the next little while. That's what I am going to do. Or rather, not his phone number (I have caller ID on my cell).
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